okay, take a look at my thread:
http://forum.toribash.com/showthread.php?t=555492
i had a problem similar to that, i have tried everything that can be done.
but, i don't know if your problem is the same, follow the thread and replies and try everything stated in the thread. and the most important one, is trying it from another pc using the same connection.
if it didn't work yet, then nothing in your hands, you have to play it as it is.
if you are asking how did i solve it, i just did nothing, completely nothing, i just went to sleep and the game was doing these things, and next day when i opened it again, it worked fine.