Press ctrl + m to see the mod list. You can controll uke in any mod.

i did that command, but nothing happened.
I did fight school, challenge Uke, then i typed /set mod jousting.tbm
nothing changed

oh my jousting mod is just messed up then, they start right in front of one another just like in judo; not way back like in multiplayer

Press ctrl + g to change open up the game rules menu, from there you can change the engage distance.

woo, it works now! thanks for all the help