i doubt steam can fix the connection problem but i will still try it now

no it doesn't
bump

1) If it is there, delete it. If it wasn't there to begin with, just go to the next step
2) Go to your Steam Library (game list) and find Toribash
3) Right click on Toribash and select 'Properties' (usually the last option in the right click menu)
4) Go to the tab called 'Local Files'
5) Click "Verify integrity of Game Cache"
6) Wait for Steam to scan your files and it should download the missing steam_api.dll file.
7) When Steam has finished, run the game
If that does not work, I cant help you.

yes you can't help

anyway to fix this yet? :/

Download an earlier client from this page, it's in russian but you can always try.
This page: http://forum.toribash.com/showthread.php?t=310132.

maybe if your computer is lagging or your internet is slow , i think you need to refresh your computer or be close to your router. that solved my issue .
hope it helps.

i have already tried older versions and my computer is not slow/laggy

How about your connection? because maybe your internet can provide connection for forums but not strong enought for MP

i can play the game like butter dude
i problem is its not connecting using /jo command