Unfortunately, I... don't REALLY have something to fill #1 on your list of three things to keep in mind.
I believe that you CAN'T hate someone to the point where you fall in love with them, since hatred would distance you from that other person. I am not talking about disgust, or despise, but true hatred. Hate from the very aura of the person. Hate not because of what a person sees in another, but hatred overall.
Now, I believe that you CAN hate someone because you love them so much, but under specific circumstances. For example...
A - If you love someone and try to become close to them, yet they don't really acknowledge or notice your love. Even if you confess to the person, they later on act as if nothing happened. This is ACTION based love to hate. It's quite possible. The thing is, you could end up hating AND loving the person at the same time, loving them for who they are yet hating them for not noticing. Hatred is aimed at a different area, though at the same person.
B - Perhaps you love someone because of a trait that they have, maybe because it's trait that you feel protects or supports you even though you don't have it. Or... perhaps it's because you don't have it or they use it to help you, that you love them. In this circumstance, though, it may be because of this trait that prevents him or her from loving you back, or noticing, or even because it prevents you from being able to show this other person your emotions. The very reason you love this person is also the very reason you hate them. And if it was the latter choice of the list in the previous sentence, you would also hate yourself for loving someone with such a quality. In this scenario, hatred is aimed at the source of love, and at the person that you love. Also, it could be aimed at oneself, because of falling in love with something that would never work out.
Hating oneself for loving someone else so much would be a much easier question to answer. "Why did I have to fall in love with this person?" Unfortunately, that's not the question/discussion topic we are speaking about today. Take note, as well, I will elaborate more on the original discussion topic as people reply. What I have written in the above paragraphs is only a small portion of what I would say, but I use what I know to provide a reply or counter-statement to the opinions of others. :P
P.S. I recently finished a couple of animes in the past 4-6 days, romance and slice-of-life based. It kind of helped me get some ideas. And the majority of the animes I watch are romance/slice-of-life, so I do have a somewhat large amount of knowledge on this matter, despite the fact that I am only 14. Also, I highly reccommend that you guys check out these animes, since they are fantastic in the execution - "Clannad" (both seasons), "ef - a tale of memories/ef - a tale of melodies" (Tale of melodies = Second season of Tale of Memories), "True Tears." They might give you guys ideas or a background of why my perspective is how it is, if you wondered why or how.
Oh, and to those of you who say that my posts are similarly long or elaborative as essays, I don't understand how. :P
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Originally Posted by
Boredpayne
No, this is ridiculous.
Obviously you can sequentially love someone or hate someone, but one feeling cannot produce the other, and you cannot have them simultaneously. That is about as logical as the continuing existence of this thread.
Considering the fact that humans can love each other for multiple reasons and qualities in their partner, wouldn't it be possible to love one quality, yet hate another quality of that same person? And if so, wouldn't it also be possible for one feeling to produce the other, as I stated in my post?
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