You can't do it with gtx 280 and 285. It is probably a software limitation, although you could flash your 285 down to a 280. However, this would mean lower sli performance. IF you sli, just get another 285. It will work without any fiddling around and will be faster.
Gtx 490? Not released yet, so good luck with that one! The 480 would be a good improvement over your single 285; however, 285 sli will give you at least 10% better results vs a single 480. Plus it would be cheaper.
Of course, getting another 285 would mean buying hardware that is on its way out, still BEAST but just can't handle dx11. If you REALLY have enough for a 5970, it beats the sli 285 in everything but physx (of course)
http://www.tomshardware.com/reviews/...5970,2474.html
The gtx 480 will be around 470-500 depending on brand, the 5970 will be in the middle 600's.
Another gtx 285 will be about 360.
If your case can fit it, the 5970 would be beastly. It overclocks like no other since it is downclocked in the first place. It's just damn expensive.
If you can't sell your 285, I'd go with the sli. If you can though, the 480 and 5970 would both be good. Just make sure you have good ventilation both in and around your case if you get the 480. Some even artifact at stock clocks.