I can not find my hair i bought it i activated it i open toribash 30 mins later it isnt there '-' please assist if i need to enable something or many things please tell me

Ingame type '/dl unknownpvp'
Then '/lp 0 unknownpvp'

It will redownload the files for your character.
Also make sure that the hair option is on in settings.

Also make sure your toribash is up to date, not some old version. Check setup then options and click advanced and see if the hair is turned on if not click on the empty box next to the hair.

Thread seems more appropriate for Support.

Moved.

it activated once and i went into multiplayer my game stopped responding after about 1 minute and now everytime i open up toribash it starts me out on a mod and my hair wont activate and i have done all the things you guys have told me to so im just going to place it on the market for 7k

What I do whenever I change equipped items on my tori, I always :
1. Use /dl my tori.
2. Open ToriShop in-game.

Sometimes, opening the ToriShop help me to show the items if it wont appear after using /dl command. I usually use this trick when creating texture.