in the multiplayer area it gives the option to create a game but whenever I make a game he cant find mine and I cant find his server if he makes a match so WTF is going on!! cause I want to play with someone who is on my level which is -9 not level over 9000!

Ok, I have some ideas.

Idea One,

1. Make a room and remember the name of it.
2. Tell your brother to type in this command in free play: /jo room name (replace "room name" with your room name).
3. Pick a mod (setup, mods)
4. Say this command when he gets in the room: /op Your brother's name (Replace "Your brother's name" with your brothers account ID) This will give him permission to change the game rules.
5. HAVE FUN
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Idea Two,

Go into a public room.

Just do /jo "server name" and tell your bro to type in the same command. Then u can pick mods n crap that u want

A quick way to do it is to do /jo [namehere] And tell him to enter the same thing.