Why does my opinion matter to you? You and I both know you will/would argue against it even just on the premise of continuing the thread.
Do I think bud is a harmful shortend version of a word? I have my personal doubts about it.
I heavily dislike it as a word myself.
But I'm aware enough that my personal reasons for it are due to my experience with it, which differ greatly to others. I think buddy is a shit word for the same reason.
Depending on where you read, some sources cite buddy coming from either a work mate in the coal mines, or it came from "brother" and was used as a way to represent brothers outside of family ties in situations like dangerous work or long extended work periods.
But the word "brother" i have no issues with, I even use its other shortened version "bro" enough times that i could pass for any stoner in any movie ever made.
Naturally, the way i read and interpret the words are different, as they are for anyone.
Do i think microaggressions are a problem? Yes. I have my personal opinions about what is and what isnt a microaggression, and how much of a problem they are on my arbitrary scale is based off of very little in most cases.
My first awareness of the term itself came from tumblr, where everyone was in the stage of "if ur partner even LOOKS at another human being then it's micro-cheating, if they text or are friends dump that cheater and ruin their life!"... Which naturally most people went "no?".
However, as it is written, the definition is pretty clear and I have no issues with it and what it refers to 99% of the time.
I will have my own thoughts about bud being transphobic or not, I certainly wouldnt object if I was given valid reasons for it to be, since it maybe came from brother and yknow, brother being a male word is well known.
But essentially, even if you think it's not. Being told not to call someone that, by that person themselves no less should be enough for you to not do that. Otherwise you're that kid from the playground that thinks it's cool to be a bully.
Irrelevant of your disagreements over the words offensiveness on a topic/issue you don't directly deal with, you're being a dickhead.
And you know that.
If you think it's a microaggression and isn't that big a deal, fine. Your opinion. But if you suddenly just start using that word with the full intent to be antagonistic, then you're being an asshole, and being an asshole on purpose isn't micro anything. It's just being an asshole.
Last edited by Icky; Feb 13, 2020 at 04:03 PM.