So what is the best way to joust? I can't get it together, and end up all crazy. I would appreciate if I could get a tutor, or if not, just some friendly advice would be great.

Theres no perfect way to play jousting, just either stick your feet out or stick your hands out, to hit the other tori.

Do I want to be relaxed or held?

Edit: That's what she said.

The best way to joust is too stay symmetrical and simple.

e.g contact kness, space, extend knees, space

etc.

Hold All. Easier.

easier, but not very good for your tori.hold absorbs all the energy, while relax disperses it.youll break more when you hold

I'd Relax all, otherwise, I end up decapping myself.

I relax all for the first frame, then contract my knees and hips second frame.