okay so my main problem is is i cant play a game? when a new game starts i get an error: toribash has stopped working and then my game shuts off... any help because im giving up on toribash

I see you are ingame now, but still getting the kiai error.
Try /dl yourself, then go ingame and you should hear it when you start up a fight.

that has also happened to be when i got toribash 4.3+so i went back down to toribash 4.1-4.2

try deleting yourself or all folders in the custom folder

You said an error in your post. Do you ever think it's your internet maybe? Maybe, your computer can't handle Toribash. Try a lower verison of Toribash. That may help.