Originally Posted by WeooWeoo

My fiancee and I plan on having a child within the next couple years. What were the biggest struggles with raising them? Any things you wish you knew beforehand?

Originally Posted by basic

why didnt you pull out

Originally Posted by Chax

I am a parent of 2 kids, I have my first when I was 15 and my 2nd when I was 16/17, if you have any questions no matter how hurtful or personal I will answer them to the best of my abilities.

Originally Posted by Fyu-Neru

Sorry to be rude but did you consider abortion when you learned about the first one? Having a kid at 15 ,16, 17:is f*cking irresponsible even if you were able to provide for them.

Originally Posted by Chax

While I agree it was irresponsible my gf at the time was wholly against abortion, on top of that my parents are incredibly Christian so they were against it too. In other words it was either ask for an abortion and lose my gf, my family, and still get slapped with childsupport while not even having a place to stay OR just accept the fact that I made a mistake and needed to own up to it by at least trying to be a father.
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also yes they almost disowned me for sex before marriage and giving birth to bastards.

Originally Posted by Fyu-Neru

Though choice you made but it looks like you understand it yourself so good for ya. Also Christianity is such a cult!

Originally Posted by Chax

honestly the biggest struggles weren't financially, while it is a bit taxing the main issue was the lack of free time and constant care required for a child. What I wish I knew beforehand is also the tax it takes on your mentality, you won't get sleep, you won't have time to relief stress, and your "alone" time with your significant other will diminish heavily.